INDIAN LOVE VIII

In an average it will take 4.2 years before Indian Women of the Delhi aerea will go to police for a complaint about domestic violence, endure torture or sexual abuse.
78% of these victims are confrontated with physically aggressive behaviour in front of and by in-laws, children and in public.
60% took support from their children after facing violent behaviour. Nearly 17% said that children became human shields to protect them. 23% women found their parents supportive after being thrown out by their husbands or their families. These facts came to light in a five-year study conducted between 2002 and 2007 on 1,805 victims seeking help from Delhi Police’s Crime Against Women Cell for help and were referred for counselling to a team of clinical psychologists from the NGO Swanchetan. On an average, the counselling lasted an hour with about three sessions per couple. Psychologists concluded that 1,531 of the women faced constant domestic abuse while only 274 cases were overstated. "The situation could be much worse in north India’s smaller towns where police often treat domestic violence as a family matter, where the social dice is loaded against women lodging a protest and where support services such as short-stay homes or women’s organisations are either rare or absent," says Ranjana Kumari, director, Centre for Social Research. The study shows that dowry remains a major reason for marital discord and often leads to violence. A huge 54% of the victims said that the dowry demands began with sudden violence.

In an average it will take 4.2 years before Indian Women of the Delhi aerea will go to police for a complaint about domestic violence, endure torture or sexual abuse.
78% of these victims are confrontated with physically aggressive behaviour in front of and by in-laws, children and in public.
60% took support from their children after facing violent behaviour. Nearly 17% said that children became human shields to protect them. 23% women found their parents supportive after being thrown out by their husbands or their families. These facts came to light in a five-year study conducted between 2002 and 2007 on 1,805 victims seeking help from Delhi Police’s Crime Against Women Cell for help and were referred for counselling to a team of clinical psychologists from the NGO Swanchetan. On an average, the counselling lasted an hour with about three sessions per couple. Psychologists concluded that 1,531 of the women faced constant domestic abuse while only 274 cases were overstated. "The situation could be much worse in north India’s smaller towns where police often treat domestic violence as a family matter, where the social dice is loaded against women lodging a protest and where support services such as short-stay homes or women’s organisations are either rare or absent," says Ranjana Kumari, director, Centre for Social Research. The study shows that dowry remains a major reason for marital discord and often leads to violence. A huge 54% of the victims said that the dowry demands began with sudden violence.

DUSSHERA DISTRACTIONS

DUSSHERA CELEBRATIONS

Dusshera is one of the most popular Indian festivals. The festival is marked by the worship of the Goddess Durga (the incarnation of Shakti, the cosmic energy. The goddess is worshipped in

ten different forms for each day of the 10-day festival. Durga Puja is performed in the various parts of India in different forms but the common theme is the triumph of good over evil.
Ram Lila is a part of the Durga Puja in North India. The theme of the celebrations is the victory of Lord Rama over the demon king Ravana.
Especially in Delhi processions from all over the city gather at the famous Rama Lila grounds to burn cracker and the effigies of raven.

During the ten days, people meet with friends and relatives, play garba and exchange Durga Puja gifts. Some of the most popular traditions are to send sweet and gifts to friends.

Today is the day of the triumph celebrating the spirit of the winning of positives over evil. The effigies of Ravana will be burnt everywhere over the city, evil will be doused everywhere.
A big impression on me made the Neptune Raas in Delhi, where amateurs in traditional Gujarat folklore dressed, dances for hours in a very special indescribable way.

IDYLLIC CREECK

Idyllic creeck in the middle of a small village in the South-East of the capital Delhi

SUMMER SPOTS

Indians living close to the railway tracks will be provided with summer spots for another 3year. 'Green toilets' toilets, will be introduced in all 40,000 trains with a delay from 3 years.
Many people find it disgusting to stand on the platform at the railway stations because of the stench. But nobody asked the villagers getting the spray of the excrements, as a result of a speeding train and humans’ contribution. With the completion of the “green toilet” project. Due to the endorsement of the generous railway minister Lalu Prasad the project could be finalized in 3 years. It is not easy to understand, why the name “green toilet” project was selected. What is green? The toilets, the chemicals used. Preventing that nature gets natural finely dispersed dungeon, can hardly be called green, it is the reverse. Taking the chemicals into account I would have called it the blue project. Now please tourists don’t get desperate. All those who would like to drive with a traditional Indian Train ... On the left side the European style toilet (to be used not later than 1 h after start, while Indian gentleman dislike to rise the toilet seat before peeing during staying upright) and on the other side the classical Indian hole in the flour of the train, giving an intensive view of the conditions of the track…..3 Indian years can easily go up to 6 regular years, giving you enough time to plan your trip and see the summer spotted Indians along the railway tracks.
For the fanatics of figures: the manufacturing of a green toilet will be rs 60,000,correspobding to approx 1.000 €. An astonishing price, since only 6 months ago I bought a chemical, blue toilet in Portugal, for reasons I fail to understand now.... of coarse not meeting the harsh conditions as on Indian transport for 85 €, inclusive the chemicals for 6 months occasional use. So the Indian train toilet must be a special green technology product especialy developed for the intensive Indian use under most severe conditions and green was always a little more expensive than blue
Other figures:Installing the toilette in 40,000 trains would make 160,000 toilettes conform to Indian Times. But being a little familiar with Indian trains, each train has at least 20 coaches, if each coach as 4 toilets, this than makes not 160,000 toilettes but 3.2 mio. Under these circumstances, the summer spotted Indian along the track may prevail not for another 3 years but for another 60 years. Prost Mahlzeit.

TOURIST WARNING- GURGAON WANTS TO KILL YOU

This evening , being already dark and walking along the main Gurgaon road in the direction of Merhauli , covered on both sides with the most exiting malls and additional with the cattle , the shit and the beggars , I found out that now every 100 m in the side -walk there is a big hole. These man traps are that you will at least brak your leg if you fell inside. There is no warning and the lights , if there is no power break (that might happen any moment and can reain for hours) , are not of big help. This is a criminal act. Even at the other side of Grand Mall and the new mall where is Spencer in the lower flour, your live is in danger !!!
Continuing the walk in the direction of NH8 , you will be under continious danger by the motorcycles and bicycle riksahs selecting the wrong side of the road for their conveince. The bicycle riksha drivers , seeing that you are a foreinger will take you up for a fee of 200 rps to NH8 , 20 times higher fee than any Indian would pay. At my opinion , the use of the Bicycle Rikshas is even more dangereous than any other means of transport, because , they dont follow any traffic rules and even have no light..... just Russian roulette is still more risky.
PLEASE AVOID GURGAON IF YOU CAN

SINGLE TICKET ENTRY FOR DELHI MONUMENTS & FOREINGER DISCRIMINATION

Single- Ticket Entry for All Monuments in Delhi

Very good and bad news Very soon tourist may no longer have to queue up. The archeological Survey of India (ASI) is introducing a common ticket system for the important monuments of Delhi. This common entry ticket comes at a time when the ASI will be revising the entry rates of Red Fort. (World heritage site)

At present the entry rates for the Mughal marvel are Rps 5 per head and for Indians and $ 2 for foreign Nationals. Entry for world heritage sites are Rps 10 per person for Indians and Rps 250 or US$ for foreigners.

Delhi has three world heritages Red Fort, Humayan’s Tomb, and Qutab Minar

And this is the bad new, how can a state punish his tourist visits; this is incredible and never seen before. My suggestion is that Indians if they visit Europe or the US ought to pay 25 times more the entry fee. So the visit of the Zoo in Frankfurt will be not 10 euro but 250, the Atomium in Brussels not 15 euro but 350 and the Louvre in Paris will be 500 euro. Maybe than after the first visit to Europe the governmental fixing the prices would think it over. But knowing Indians they will have big publications stipulating discrimination and racisms. Only if it is happening in their own country than it is right.

THIS INJUSTICE AND DISCRIMINATION OF FOREIGNERS HAS TO BE STOPPED

INDIAN ROMANCE VIII

Slapping and Beating

According to the newest National Family Health Survey – III interviewing 125,000 women in 28 of the Indian States in the period of 2005-2006 find out that , 41 % of all the interviewed women justified wife- beating if it was because they showed disrespect towards their in-laws while 35 % agreed with being brutally assaulted by their husbands if they neglected the households or their children.
Almost in all states the victims don’t feel victimized, both in the case of dowry or spousal violence. They feel being beating up by the husband is all right.
Bihar was found the worst state with abuse rates as high as 59%. Bihar was followed by Rajasthan 46,3 %. Etc
Most of the women assaulted by their husbands were less than 2 years in the marriage. Slapping was the most common act of physical violence by husbands. More than 35 % in general said their husbands slapped them, while 15 % said their husbands pulled their hair or twisted their arm. And now very amazing at least for me: Buddhist woman reported the highest level of violence (41%). Followed by Muslim and Hindu woman with 34-35 %. Women of the Jain community reported the lowest rate of violence (13%)

The cartoon above is from Ann Telnaes, Ann Telnaes Womens eNews Cartoons, http://www.cartoonistgroup.com/bysubject/womensrights/byartist.php?id=70&p=3

WISE WORDS III

Letting Go of the Past

It is good to know that mere facts never burden us. The memory of our name or phone number is not a burden but a psychological memory or an insult or even a felicitation can become a hang up. Interestingly, many of us tend to forget facts but we tend to remember and dwell upon psychological memories.
Osho points out, “Memory has technical uses. You have to know how you drive, you have to know where your home is and you have to recognize your wife and your children. But those are not the psychological hang-ups Factual memories are useful. It enhances life, facilitates it.
But if you come home and you look at your wife and think of all your past experiences with her then this is a psychological hang-up. If she was angry with you in the recent past, then that memory can cloud your eyes. If she was nasty or sad, then it too can color your perception. Psychological impressions change your way of looking and perceiving her as she is standing in the front of you at this moment You are not longer looking at her but at someone who doesn’t exist. You are looking at a ghost, not at your wife. And she may also be looking at you at the same way.
Drop the past each moment … Just as you clean your house, clean your inner house of the past. All psychological memories have to be dropped. Just keep the factual things and you mind will be very clean and clear
Soon n you will find there is a new light in your life – the light of here- now the PRESENT.
OSHO, citations from timesfoundation@timesgroup.com

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